A Most Extraordinarily Ordinary Day

I woke up this morning at 0545, when my bedside light turned on. I kissed my husband before he left for work and lazed just a while in bed, rejoicing in how autumn has encouraged my children to sleep just a little later in the mornings. But finally, I needed to start the day, so I sat up and took my blood pressure. It was 104/65.

When I was at this point in my pregnancy with Louis (34 weeks, 3 days), a nurse woke me up to take my blood pressure before she went off shift. It was greater than 160/110, just as it had been on the overnight check.

After breakfast and morning chores, I got the kids packed up and we headed out to library storytime, where we sang songs and listened to stories and played a little game. Afterward, we played in the children’s area while I chatted with a few other moms about breastfeeding while pregnant and whether tandem breastfeeding might increase the baby’s risk of allergies (conclusion? probably not).

At that time during my pregnancy with Louis? Our maternal-fetal specialist came into my room to tell me that we needed to have our baby sooner rather than later.

After a quick lunch on the go, the kids and I headed to ALDI to do our grocery shopping. The lady behind me in line commented on how brave I was to have three so close together. We packed up our groceries and headed home. We got stuck behind a train and I scrolled through Facebook while we waited.

At that time during my pregnancy with Louis? We did a external version, attempting to rotate Louis to head down so I could begin an induction for a hoped-for vaginal birth after cesarean. We got him head down, but his feet were down too – and as soon as our maternal-fetal specialist’s hands were off my abdomen, Louis popped back into the transverse position he’d been favoring for most of our pregnancy. We began preparations for a repeat c-section.

This afternoon, the kids and I finished our lunch at the dining room table before settling in for a “rest time”. I read a chapter of a novel, a chapter of a birthing book. I scrolled through Facebook some more. After Daniel got home from work, I sat on the couch with him and my children. We talked about our days, about what we’ve read. The baby kicked his sister and brother, who were crawling all over me.

At that time during my pregnancy with Louis? Extra nurses were called in to hook up extra IVs – most of my veins were already blown from my past four days in the hospital. Other technicians came by to hook up heart monitors. A catheter was inserted. My robe was cut up my back to allow the anesthesiologist access to my spine. I curled in a fetal position for a spinal. My abdomen was cut. The terse words “meconium staining” were spoken. My son was born silent. The awful sound of suctioning and, at last, a cry.

I rose from the couch to change Louis’s diaper. Washed my hands. Started cooking supper. Rejoicing all the way that I was officially more pregnant than I had ever been before.

Today was a most extraordinarily ordinary day.

Thank you, Lord.


Happy Birthday Crafting

Tirzah Mae has been on a major doll kick these past couple of months (which I almost took as a harbinger of baby’s coming – the last time she went on a kick like this was a week before Louis was born!) She’s been naming the dollies, getting out every rag in the house to use as dolly’s diapers, feeding dollies with the loose breastmilk storage bottles that seem to have only multiplied in captivity.

So it made sense to me that Tirzah Mae’s birthday gift from us should have something to do with dollies. My original thought was to buy her a nice medium-sized dolly that would be easy to dress (we currently own a ginormous doll – as big as either Tirzah Mae and Louis were at three to six months – and a tiny doll, neither of which are particularly dressable for little hands.) So I’d buy her a nice doll and make her a bunch of outfits to go along with it. It’s the sort of gift my mom gave us as kids. But the uncertainty of the new baby coming made me wary of trying a big sewing project.

Mama putting on Tirzah Mae's new "pouch"

I handed the doll and outfits idea off to grandma and decided I’d do some accessories instead – accessories that I wouldn’t have to size perfectly.

A “pouch” fit the bill exactly. And so I whipped up a quick mei tei using this simple tutorial.

And when that seemed a bit skimpy as a gift (but the energy of making something complex seemed even more insurmountable), I threw together some strips of fabric into a foundation-pieced string quilt and made it into a self-binding dolly blanket (using this tutorial for instructions and this one when I got stumped at the corners.)

Tirzah Mae and her dolly with the new pouch

It isn’t the grand gift I’d imagined, but I think dolly’s new “pouch” and blankie will do just fine.


Nightstand (October 2017)

3 years (and 3 days) ago, I wrote my Nightstand post from a hospital bed while trying to stay pregnant as long as possible.

Today, I write celebrating Tirzah Mae’s third birthday – and our longest healthy pregnancy yet.

My reading life has undergone some pretty significant changes in the past three years – but I’m still reading (even if it’s mostly picture books that aren’t listed here!)

Books for Growing:

  • Learning to Talk by James Christopher Law
    Part of the “Johnson’s Everyday Babycare” series by Dorling Kindersley, this short glossy book describes normal speech development in infants and children and how parents can facilitate healthy language development. Nothing groundbreaking, but I think it’s still a helpful resource for parents who are wondering “is my child normal?” and “am I doing what I should do?”
  • Free to Learn by Lynne Oldfield
    An introduction to the Steiner Waldorf model of early childhood education – a model that focuses on free play (without trying to force “education”), encounters with nature,
    and regular rhythms of life. I found Steiner’s discussion of rhythms to be particularly helpful in organizing my family’s daily routines. This book by Oldfield is a nice introduction to the method.

Books for Knowing:

  • North America’s Favorite Butterflies: A Pictorial Guide by Patti and Milt Putnam
    We picked this up while I was browsing the adult nonfiction stacks because it fits Tirzah Mae’s exacting criterion for titles meant for grown-ups: it is small and it has an orange cover. But unlike the many such books we have brought home from the library, this one managed to sustain both Tirzah Mae AND her mother’s attention throughout the entire 3 month checkout period. We’ve spent many an afternoon poring over the full-color photographs of butterflies and reading the accompanying text describing a bit of the behavior or habitat or habits of that butterfly.

Books for Enjoying:

  • Big Appetites by Christopher Boffoli
    Another book that fit Tirzah Mae’s criteria for checking out, this particular title is a series of photos of tiny toy people set amongst larger-than-life food. Each photo is accompanied by a title and a wry subtitle. So a picture of tiny men pushing around cherries and pitting them is titled “Cherry Pitters”, with the subtitle “The team was driven by their desire to negate years of PR damage from cherry-flavored medicines.” Moderately amusing.

Don’t forget to drop by 5 Minutes 4 Books to see what others are reading this month!

What's on Your Nightstand?


Sometimes you have to adjust

Sometimes you spend Sunday afternoon and evening preparing your list of goals for the upcoming month of November – and the corresponding list of tasks for the upcoming week.

Sometimes your children wake you up around 11 and keep you up until 4, meaning you sleep in until 8 and are exhausted through the day.

Sometimes said children are also exhausted and battling colds, meaning that every little thing is worth bawling about and the couch gets more pee on it than the potty does in it.

Sometimes you have to close out the day, with its list of unfinished tasks and just be thankful that you made it through the day mostly in one piece.

Sometimes you have to adjust your plans.


Daniel Does Something About It

After a few months of sleeping through the night, Louis has started waking up again. Only now, when we go to comfort him, we often find his sister fast asleep on his mattress beside him – with him hanging off the mattress (onto the floor 4 inches below) in various degrees. Sometimes it’s his legs, sometimes just a foot, sometimes his head. Sometimes all it takes to get him back to sleep is to position him so he’s fully on the mattress – and sometimes it takes hours of rocking and walking and reassurance. You just never know.

But when I was battling the stomach flu this last weekend and Daniel was therefore taking night duty, Daniel decided that enough was enough.

He arrived home from church and announced that he was going to build the kids that bunk bed we’d been putting off until after we got the house foster-care ready.

And so he did.

Tirzah Mae and Louis on their new bunk bed

Wednesday night was their inaugural night in their new bunk bed. Louis was kept inside the bed by the rails all around. Tirzah Mae was apprehensive enough about going down the ladder on her bed to join Louis in his. And both of them slept through the night (inasmuch as I could tell since I slept through the night. Well, except for that time when I had to pee, and when the baby kicked me awake, and…)

I’m not confident that it will continue to be successful at keeping Tirzah Mae in her own bed – but I do know that Louis’s new guard rails are sufficient enough to keep him from rolling onto the floor, and hopefully sufficient to help him stay asleep.


Time to Stop Stockpiling

For a while now, I’ve been doubling a recipe or two a week, stashing the second recipe in the freezer for when/if I or baby end up in the hospital.

Tonight, I doubled a beef enchilada recipe that was supposed to make a 9×13 pan – and ended up with three 9×9 pans and one 9×13 pan, and a little extra. How does that work?

So now my freezer contains…

  • a 9×13 pan of beef enchiladas
  • two 9×9 pans of beef enchiladas
  • a 9×9 pan of turkey enchiladas
  • a 9×9 pan of Aztec casserole
  • a 9×9 pan of my mom’s meatloaf
  • a 9×9 pan of Cajun meatloaf
  • a container of BBQ pulled pork
  • a recipe of Swedish meatballs
  • a recipe of Crockpot BBQ meatballs
  • a recipe of ricotta gnocchi
  • a recipe of turkey tortilla soup
  • a recipe of oven beef stew
  • a recipe of corn chowder with chilies
  • a recipe of chili
  • a recipe of potato corn chowder
  • a recipe of West Virginia soup
  • a recipe of Great Grams Spaghetti
  • a couple of pizza crusts
  • a few jars of pesto
  • a recipe of refried beans
  • a dozen or so bean and rice burritos

That’s what? 3 weeks or more of meals?

And we’re already at 33 weeks with no particular end in sight (Eeek! It’s so crazy to be HEALTHY this far into pregnancy!) Go much longer and we might not even need a NICU stay.

I think it’s time to stop stockpiling.


Take heart

“What’s this song about?”

It’s a question Tirzah Mae asks me a half dozen times a day.

It’s a question I love to answer because it forces me to listen to the music that’s on, forces me to articulate the message in simple terms.

But this time, the question discomposed me. We were in the car listening to a random “Christian” CD we’d borrowed from the library. A “Christian” CD that was basically the prosperity gospel set to music.

I blustered a bit. “Well, this song has bad theology. It’s saying that if we trust in Jesus, we won’t have any problems.”

And as the song promised believers would be “on top of the world” and as the singer ad libbed what sorts of things believers would be “on top” in (money, physical health, possessions, families, fame, more money, more possessions…) As the song pushed on with its false promises, I was reminded of – and told my daughter of – a true promise Jesus made:

“In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.”
~John 16:33 (NIV)

I told my daughter that God promised that we would have hard times, but that those who believe in Jesus have Jesus to walk with them during the hard times on this earth – and that those who believe in Jesus have the promise that God will set everything right in the end.

And then I had to stop lest the tears obstruct my ability to drive.

But I kept thinking on the promise of God for a good long while. I was moved to worship the God who has overcome this world – even though all has not yet been put to right. And I was moved to pray for those pitiful souls who are clinging to a false promise of ease in this life and do not know the joy of trusting Christ for what HE has promised (and will surely bring to pass).

“If in Christ we have hope in this life only, we are of all people most to be pitied.”
~1 Corinthians 5:19 (ESV)

Tirzah Mae’s question was a simple one – and one I didn’t really know how to answer – but the process of attempting to answer it turned what had been background noise (and theologically incorrect background noise at that!) into an opportunity to worship God and pray for the lost.

Take heart, dear believers, who feel on the bottom of the world – whether because of a job you hate, an income that doesn’t seem to make ends meet, relationships that are broken, health problems that seem insurmountable, or any other thing. Take heart, Christ has overcome the world.

And, if you have been placing your hope in this world – in the pursuit of fame and fortune and comfort and family or in any other thing – know this, those things will never satisfy. All the hope this world offers is hollow. Place your trust in Christ – he has overcome this world.


Not gonna be a hero

Usually, I reserve my dishwasher for tableware – plates, bowls, glasses, mugs. I handwash those big, bulky cooking and serving things.

But I had a stomach bug this weekend that got me all behind on dishes – and my in-laws are visiting next weekend (so it’d be kinda nice to have a semi-clean house). So I ran a dishwasher full of the normal stuff this morning – and ran a dishwasher full of big glass bowls and metal pans this evening.

My dishwasher

Not gonna be a hero.

Dishwasher contents

Not this time.


Read Aloud Roundup (Sep 2017)

When it comes to books the children brought to me to read and re-read and re-read again, board books won the day this month.

Welcome by Mo Willems

Tirzah Mae and Louis read "Welcome" together

This was the hands-down winner of the “most-frequently-read” award. It’s a user’s manual of sort for new babies, telling them everything they need to know, from
“OUR RESEARCH INDICATES
This is YOU.”

to

Papa reads "Welcome" by Mo Willems

“You are loved
right here,
right now…
while we read this book together.”

It has droll moments (“Many activities are available for you to enjoy, including, but not limited to: sleeping and waking, eating and burping, pooping and more pooping.”) and serious moments (“We regret to inform you not everything is as it should be. There is unkindness and fighting and wastefulness and soggy toast. You will not be exempt from any of these things.”) And all of it is illustrated with icons that look rather like buttons or badges or maybe traffic signs.

Louis looks in the mirror at the back of "Welcome"

The children loved the mirrors at the front and back, as well as the repeated refrain (“while we read this book together”) that occurs at the end of almost every page. I loved the humor (“Your log-in code” reads one page. “Do not worry. You do not need to know any log-in codes, yet. Lucky you.”) and the opportunity to delight in my children “while we read this book together.”

All the Ways I Love You written by Susan Larkin, illustrated by Jacqueline East

Mama reads "All the Ways I Love You"
A sweet little enumeration of… all the ways mother animals (and humans) love their children. “I love you with warm-hearted giggles and happy wiggles…playtime laughing and bathtime splashing.” Louis especially enjoyed snuggling with his mama while listening to this lyrical book and pointing out all the different animals found within (a doe and a fawn, a mama bird with her chicks, a squirrel with her kittens, and many more.) Louis generally listens to most books while doing something else (climbing, usually) – but this one consistently keeps his attention and keeps him in my lap from cover to cover.

Tap the Magic Tree by Christie Matheson

Tirzah Mae and Louis read "Tap the Magic Tree"

Do your kids love Herve Tullet’s Press Here or Let’s Play? Then, chances are, they’ll enjoy this “magic” board book. The text gives instructions a la Tullet (press here, shake gently, etc.) – but the illustrations show a tree growing leaves in the spring, budding, hosting a nest, bearing apples, and dropping its leaves before the winter snowfall comes. This ended up dovetailing nicely with our not-entirely-intentional apple unit in our “Prairie Elms Preschool”. Not only did I read this aloud dozens of times, I often caught Tirzah Mae “playing” it by herself.

Apple Farmer Annie by Monica Wellington

"Apple Farmer Annie" by Monica Wellington

My plan for Tirzah Mae’s “preschool” was that we would read through the Read Aloud Revival booklist for the month during our daily read-aloud time. But then we got the books for September’s list out of the library – and read them all within the first few days of doing “school”. So we ended up branching out quite a bit from the apple theme the RAR booklist prescribed.

Apple Farmer Annie got read at least every week, if not more frequently, until we had to return it to the library (with much weeping on Tirzah Mae’s part.) Tirzah Mae loved reading all about the things Apple Farmer Annie did to prepare for market day in New York City. Louis loved pointing out all the pictures of apples. Both listened intently while I read out loud – and then fought over who could have possession of the book for private perusal afterward.

Where is Catkin? by Janet Lord, illustrated by Julie Paschkis

"Where is Catkin?" by Janet Lord and Julie Paschkis
We ended up with this lovely book quite by accident, but ended up loving it. Catkin (the cat, imagine that!) hunts for a variety of animals, all of whom evade his pounce, until Catkin finds himself up a tree. After each unsuccessful attempt at hunting, the reader is asked to hunt down the chased animal, who is now in hiding. The story ends with Catkin as the lost one – but his human friend Amy searches him out and finds him.

Tirzah Mae enjoyed searching for the various animals within the colorful illustrations. I enjoyed the illustrations (which remind me a bit of Americana folk hooked rugs or wall hangings) in and of themselves. Both of us spent plenty of time reading and re-reading this little story.


Check out what other families are reading aloud at Read Aloud Roundup at Hope is the Word.


Nightstand (September 2017)

My busy summer is apparently not quite over – at least not as far as reading goes. Between starting “school” with Tirzah Mae (which means LOTS of picture books, but not a whole lot of grown-up reading), trying to put extra meals in the freezer (at least a couple a week), weeding the gravel driveway (possibly a fool’s errand, but we’d rather not spray more than we need to), canning applesauce, and attempting to get that porch railing done before the baby comes… Well, I haven’t finished much reading this month. In fact, I’ve only finished TWO books!

Finished this month:

  • The Midwife by Jennifer Worth
    I checked this memoir out of the library because it was in the pregnancy/birth section and I’ve read all the clinical and “how-to” stuff in that section. I figured since I haven’t done any pregnancy reading this pregnancy, maybe I’d glean something from the birth stories within. Turns out that wasn’t to be – there’s not near as much about pregnancy and birth as you’d expect from a book called The Midwife. But, this was a fascinating story nonetheless – a coming-of-age and coming-to-faith story of sorts. I enjoyed it greatly.
  • Keys to Toilet Training by Meg Zweiback
    At the point I checked this out of the library, I was starting to wonder if my “wait until she’s obviously ready” strategy for toilet training Tirzah Mae was going to backfire. Maybe I needed to step things up and get her trained before the baby comes. Turns out, the author of the “keys” is pretty into relaxed potty training herself – and I was about two chapters in when Tirzah Mae up and trained herself, with only minimal input from me. I finished the book, which I thought gave generally good advice (mostly consisting of “relax, give it time, keep at the gentle process”). Tirzah Mae asked me once what the book was about and I told her – and periodically since, she’s been asking if she could read “Keys to Potty Training” (of course, I let her!)

Tirzah Mae reading "Keys to Toilet Training"

Actively in Progress:

  • Church History in Plain Language by Bruce L. Shelley
  • For Better: The Science of a Good Marriage by Tara Parker-Pope
  • The Weekend Homesteader by Anna Hess

Passively in Progress:

  • Free to Learn by Lynne Oldfield
  • HypnoBirthing by Marie F. Mongan
  • Learning to Talk by James Christopher Law

Don’t forget to drop by 5 Minutes 4 Books to see what others are reading this month!

What's on Your Nightstand?


Postscript: For those wondering about my pregnancy – thank you so much for praying! We had a doctor’s appointment today and all is well so far. My blood pressure remains low, my weight gain is appropriate, and there’s no protein in my urine. Baby is quite active, with a good heartbeat and good uterine growth. Praise God! Please continue praying for health, yes, but also that we would have grace to trust God with the uncertainty that comes along with the last trimester for us.