What’s on Your Nightstand?

What's on Your Nightstand?

My “nightstand” is a desk next to my bed–I keep most of my current library books there (if they fit).

Feel free to take a peek:

Picture of Nightstand January 2009

I know, it’s a lot to take in. So I’ll break it down for you:

To Be Read:

Reading Every Book

I’ve written before about my quest to read every book in Eiseley Library–so I won’t go into too much detail here. Suffice to say that once I have read every book by a certain author or in a certain Dewey decimal category, I can “close out” that category and won’t be required to read anything more in that category even if the library acquires more books. If I were smart (hah!) I would work feverishly to close out authors that are still writing prolificly. But alas, I am not smart–and instead work on closing out all sorts of dead authors.

In the children’s section, I’m working on two picture book authors (Dr. Seuss and Ludwig Bemelmans) and two juvenile fiction series (The Boxcar Children and The Hardy Boys). These are my current selections from each.

  • Hop on Pop
  • Green Eggs and Ham
  • Great Day for UP
  • Madeline’s Christmas by Ludwig Bemelmans
  • The Woodshed Mystery by Gertrude Chandler Warner
  • The Shore Road Mystery by Franklin W. Dixon

In adult non-fiction, I’m hard at work on 640.43 (Time Management) and 649.122 (Infant and Toddler Care). I’m two books away from completing 640.43 (and those two books are on my nightstand now). 649.122 reproduces too rapidly for me to make any real progress.

  • Managing Workplace Chaos
  • Mom, Inc. by Neale S. Godfrey
  • Growing up Green by Dierdre Imus

Compliments of other Bloggers

My blog reader is always suggesting new books or authors for me to read–so much so that I can’t keep up on reading both at the same time (blogs and books, that is). Several books that are on my nightstand now were recommended to me by other bloggers (or I got interested in the topic because of a blogger.)

The 5 Minutes for Books review of Mistaken Identity convinced me that I had to read it.

When Jolanthe was studying Antarctica with her kids, they studied Shackleton’s adventure on the Endurance. The reminder was enough to re-spark my interest. I’ve been reading up on Shackleton since December.

  • The Endurance by Caroline Alexander
  • Sea of Ice: The Wreck of the Endurance

Anna is a big fan of Grace Livingston Hill–and quotes from her on a semi-regular basis. I haven’t read much Hill since I was a preteen, but I nabbed one of her books from the library a while back. It has, unfortunately, been sitting on my desk for WAY TOO LONG!

I had no clue what to expect when I borrowed The Mysterious Benedict Society from the library–only that I’d heard it’s name favorably on a dozen occasions from my most respected bookie bloggers. It was AMAZING! I was telling my little sister about it and trying to see if the library had another copy she could borrow when the librarian informed me there was a sequel. So–I have book 2.

We weren’t able to find a second copy of The Mysterious Benedict Society for Grace, so she didn’t get it. But I checked out a few of her recommendations:

Just Because/That Looks Interesting

I’m a big fan of randomly browsing the library, picking up whatever looks interesting. These fit the bill.

To Be Reviewed

I’m trying to review the books I read more often on my Book Review page, but I’m always hopelessly behind. Recently read books are piled on my desk/nightstand awaiting review.

Hidden Elsewhere

My bag (and bed itself) acts as a cache for a few more books:

Check out some other nightstands at
5 Minutes for Books.


Husbandless Housewife

Marriage is not easy. Marriage is not the answer to life’s problems. Marriage is not happily ever after. Marriage is not a fairy tale. Marriage is hard work.

I know all that.

But whenever I get discontent or frustrated with any aspect of my life, my favorite fantasy to retreat to is…marriage.

In highschool, when I was trying to figure out which of my hundreds of interests to choose as my LIFE pursuit (i.e. career)–I dreamt of the easy way out. I could just get married–then I wouldn’t have to decide.

When I was overwhelmed by the hamster wheel life of school, work, volunteering, church, family, dorm, friends, Navs–I longed for an escape. I could marry, and then (maybe) I wouldn’t have to bother with half of it (school, work, dorm at least).

When I was in the midst of depression and feeling disconnected from everyone, I thought maybe marriage would be my solution. How could I feel disconnected if I were married?

When I was blacking out ten to twenty times a day and afraid to drive lest I should black out and kill someone–I thought getting married would correct my problem. (Oh wait, I didn’t come up with that. That was the doctor. Well, I guess he didn’t say I had to get married–he said the only cure for my hypovolemia was pregnancy. But since I don’t believe in having children out of wedlock, that meant marriage to me.)

Anyway, my most recent frustration has been with being a housewife.

You see, I love being a housewife–and I am one, despite not having a husband. I revel in cooking homemade meals and keeping my sink shining. I delight in puttering around my home and neatening things. Tidying, organizing, even scrubbing is fun for me. I make breakfast every morning, fill the fridge with homemade food, wash the dishes every evening. I make sure the house is in order–and when it is, all is well with my world.

I don’t begrudge the fact that I do 90% or so of the housework in the home I share with several roommates. I love doing it. What I don’t love is that I don’t have someone else pitching in to give me the time, money, and energy to focus on what I love doing–being a housewife.

You see, as a husbandless housewife, I have to do double duty. I have to carry out both the “housewife” jobs and the “husbandry” jobs. Not only do I cook all the food, do all the dishes, and clean the kitchen–I also have to work to pay for all the food and have to eat it all (generally without assistance) when I’m done. Not only do I clean the house and make it ready for entertaining–I also have to work to pay the full portion of rent (leaving much less time and energy to carry out my housewifely tasks.)

So marriage sounds really good to me right now.

I can just imagine it. He works to pay the bills and takes care of car stuff. I work to buy us little extras and take care of home stuff. He can bring home the bacon–I’ll cook it up. I’ll clean up the kitchen after meals, as long as he’s there to do his part with eating the meals.

Now I’ve painted myself a panacea, a delicious too-good-to-be-true fantasy–but tell me, how is it that girls who hate to cook, despise housework, and are indifferent to children can get married, but I’m still single?

Please don’t take this wrong. I’m not bitter. I’m not angry. I just struggle to understand God’s purpose in my singleness–when I seem so clearly cut out for the life of a housewife.


Hot Grocery Guy

I was staring blankly at the tabloids, lost in my own little world, when I noticed the guy behind me in line. More specifically, I noticed that he was leaning a bit over the belt as if he was looking for a divider. I silently handed him one, still paying no attention to anything–except the vague “Huh” I was muttering in my head regarding Heath Ledger’s fatherless daughter.

Then, out of the corner of my eye, I saw what the man behind me was placing on the belt. Whole grain cheerios, sweet potatoes, spinach, carrots, skim milk– That was enough to jolt me out of my reverie. This guy was seriously attractive. I had to take a look. So I stole a quick peek.

On my glance away, I saw the canvas grocery bags lying in his cart. And almost swooned. Seriously. I mean, I’m not fond of calling things “hot”, but that was HOT.

And now my secret is out. I judge people by the contents of their shopping carts.

When I see a cart full of fresh fruits and veggies, with lots of raw ingredients and not many pre-processed items, I applaud internally. And if the shopper happens to be male, between the ages of 20 and 40, and buying only enough for one, I think “Soul Mate.” (At which point I remind myself that there’s more to life than food–even if being an unpicky eater who loves vegetables ranks high on my dream guy list.)

When I see a cart loaded with pre-packaged foods, predominantly snack foods, I cringe and wonder. I tell myself not to be so judgemental–after all, everyone has different circumstances–and if people judged me by the contents of my grocery bag, they might come up with the wrong impression too.

For instance, this week I bought white flour, shortening, mozzarella and provolone cheese, canned mushrooms, oatmeal, and raisins. The person who sees that (like the hot guy behind me) doesn’t know that I have milk, carrots, romaine lettuce, Omega Eggs, celery, cabbage, turnips, and cauliflower in my fridge. He doesn’t know that I have bananas, apples, and oranges on my counter. He doesn’t know that I have carrots, corn, lima beans, broccoli, peas, stir fry vegetables, and chicken breasts in my freezer. He doesn’t know that I have home canned tomatoes, green beans, and applesauce in my cupboard. He doesn’t know that I have brown rice, dried beans, whole wheat pasta, onions, and red potatoes in my pantry. He doesn’t know that I make my own whole wheat bread and whole grain corn tortillas or my own yogurt. He really doesn’t know anything about me based on this week’s purchases.

So what if the hot guy behind me was judging me based on my purchases? If he were looking at me through my eyes, he’d probably be thinking: “Pretty girl. I like the shopping bag–is that homemade? But look at what she’s buying. Does she realize that everything she’s buying is WHITE? She probably doesn’t even cook–probably taking oatmeal cookies to an event.”

He might have had a really good-looking cart, but I ruined my chances with mine. Apart from his thank you when I handed him a divider, we didn’t speak. There was nothing to say. Just another attractive guy to admire from a distance.


Simple Sunday: Sewing Machine

Sewing Machine

My parents gave me this sewing machine for my high school graduation. They’d been hiding it in their closet for two years since finding it as a steal at a garage sale.

Since then I’ve used it to sew myself not a few articles of clothing, to put together a number of quilts, and to mend or alter too many items to count. My sewing machine has traveled from my parents’ home to a dorm room and back, to one residence after another since then. It’s traveled to church for ladies craft nights and ladies have crowded around it in my own home.

I’m thankful for how my sewing machine has enabled me to live cheaply–and richly.

Simple Sunday

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You know it’s cold–

when your eyeglasses frost over with the air from your nostrils.

For those with asthma and similar conditions (such as the euphemistically named “exercise-induced bronchospasm”), cold can be an enemy. Cold air is dry air, and dry air increases asthma symptoms.

So since the walk into class this afternoon had me wheezing a bit, I told myself I’d take precautions on the trip back to my car. I wrapped my scarf tightly around my face, covering my mouth and nose. This kept more moisture in and warmed the air slightly before I breathed it in. It’s a common recommendation for asthmatic individuals dealing with low temperatures.

While the scarf technique was successful at preventing wheezing on the way back from class, there were some unexpected complications. The scarf channelled some of my breath up and behind my eyeglasses, causing them to fog over–and then frost over.

So I walked back to my car blind. I lifted the glasses to look both ways before crossing the main street, and replaced them a little low on my nose (so that I could look over them if needed for the rest of the trip.)

Once I got back to the car, I turned it on and waited for a few minutes for my glasses to thaw. It didn’t take too long before they thawed and the water ran off onto my cheeks in two huge teardrops.


Life couldn’t possibly…

Not even probably… Life couldn’t possibly better be. (Lyrics from The Court Jester.)

But truly I have been blessed. I’m not sure life can get much better than it is right now.

I love my job (er, internship). Today I rolled a bazillion cinnamon rolls, plated some Bundt cake, observed the tray line, sat in on an interview, compared menus on old computer system and new, and rifled through some cooking magazines for recipe ideas.

I love my home. Today I baked off a few extra cinnamon rolls, made some hamburger buns, made a chicken pot pie from scratch (and my pie crust was FLAKY-Yay! I’ve finally mastered it!), started some more yogurt going, washed and replaced the sofa slipcovers, dusted and vacuumed the living room, swept and mopped the kitchen, and washed the “Joy to the World” off the patio door.

I love God. He met me at 5(am) before I left for work, He kept me safe and focused throughout the day. He’s restored my emotions (something I was beginning to think was impossible while I remained on the antidepressant.) And this evening I got a call from a friend I used to meet with regularly to do Bible study with. She said she had some extra time on Friday and she’s missed hanging out with me and talking about God. So we’re getting together this Friday to talk about God. Then my little sister had news–a family friend accepted Jesus as his Savior this evening at youth group.

Now I know I should be getting ready for bed–I do have to work (er, intern) tomorrow at 6:30–but tell me, can life possibly be better?

Life couldn’t possibly– not even probably– life couldn’t possibly better BE!


A Girl’s Best Friend

Someone once said a diamond is a girl’s best friend. My Dad disagrees. He says ibuprofen is a girl’s best friend. I disagree.

Duct tape really is a girl’s best friend.

Cases in point:

  • When I’m putting together a box and folding just won’t do–duct tape to the rescue.
  • When I can’t take my car through the car wash because the back passenger window won’t roll up completely–duct tape fills the spot neatly.
  • When Casandra’s arrow gets snapped in half–duct tape covers the gaffe.
  • When the hot water heater blanket slips off, leaving the water cold–duct tape works much better than the stuff Menards sold.

Duct tape is a girl’s best friend.

On second thought, ibuprofen has its merits too–headaches, cramps, muscle pain, toothache–it fixes just about everything duct tape can’t.

But diamonds. Diamonds are nice too. Not that I’d know–I’ve never owned one. But they sure look nice.

Who said a girl is only allowed ONE best friend? Diamonds and ibuprofen and duct tape are a girl’s best friends.


Simple Sunday: E-mail

Our family has been going through a rough patch as Grandpa’s been in the hospital and now in the nursing home. It’s been stressful for Grandma especially.

But kids and grandkids and great-grandkids have been up and down back and forth since Grandpa’s seizure. And even for those who haven’t been able to go up, e-mail has kept us connected.

I don’t have a picture–but I think an excerpt from Grandma’s latest e-mail will do.

She writes: “Thanks to all of you for all your gifts, prayers, visits, and just generally for being such great kids. I think Im getting spoiled. And I
like it.”

And I’m so thankful for e-mail and how it’s kept us all together.

Simple Sunday

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Quilting to Resume…

It’s been six months since we had weekly quilting circle at the ABC’s–but the break ends soon! Starting tomorrow, we will be resuming quilting at the ABC’s every Sunday afternoon from 3-5 (Note the earlier time–and realize that AB&C will need to leave for Life Group at 5 on the dot.)

We’re all beginners (most of the ladies are working on their first quilt) so don’t feel shy if you’ve never quilted before. Each of us is working on our own project, but we’re willing to help you get started on a project of your own (whether it be a potholder, a table runner, or a full sized quilt.) We have all the tools you need (unless you want to make sure the fabric matches your color scheme), so come right on.

Here’s a sample of what I’ve done over the past couple of years:

My quilt

My quilt top

Olivia's baby quilt

Nytejok's baby's quilt

Nyayan's baby's quilt

Hannah's baby quilt

My sister Grace completed this one at last year’s quilting circle:

Grace's quilt

If you’re in the city of Lincoln and would like to attend but don’t know my address, e-mail me or give me a call and we can work something out.


On a week’s orientation

If you think of education as trying to fill a brain with information as you would fill a cup with water, this week has been like filling a cup from a fire hydrant.

Several hundreds of gallons of information have been flung in my general direction, but of that, pitifully little has been retained. Some is not retained because it never actually reached my cup–it flew right by on either side. Other information reached my cup, but was thrown so forcefully that it splashed right out. Still other information was lost when my cup overflowed.

So the result of my intense orientation is a mish-mash of information, divorced from the context that makes it useful. Have I learned anything this week? Yes. What did I learn? I don’t know. Whatever I have learned has been pitifully small compared to what I was expected to learn.

For now I have two simple goals: 1) Be at the right place at the right time and 2) Be willing to try to learn while I’m there. No doubt my goals will become more focused as I spend a bit more time in specific places. But for now, I’ll be there and I’ll try. That’s about all I can do.