Let it snow, let it snow, let it snow

Snow doesn’t usually accumulate in Wichita.

A snowstorm means snow flies, people get in accidents, and the streets are clear within an hour.

At least, that’s the way it usually is.

This week, though, Wichita experienced a Nebraska-quality snowstorm.

We got several inches Wednesday afternoon–which meant most of our appointments were no-shows. I e-mailed my family telling them of the snowstorm around four–and then kicked myself when I walked out of the office at five to find the streets clear.

I left my boots at Daniel’s house that evening. After all, the streets and the skies were clear as of two Thursday morning.

When I walked up the stairs Thursday morning, ready for work, the woman I live with asked me if I was sure I still had to work.

I was a bit confused until I looked out the door. In the six hours since I’d last looked, we’d gotten six inches.

Nena was kind enough to help me clear my car (meaning that I only soaked my stockings up to my knees, but left my clothes themselves relatively dry). I slipped and slid and spun my tires a bit on the way out the driveway.

I got to my training a half-hour late–but I did make it, as did one other participant. I couldn’t tell whether my eye doctor was still open based on the message on their phone, so I geared up to go at the appropriate time, only to find that I was STUCK.

It took about 20 minutes to get myself free–digging out my tires, placing a carpet underneath them, rocking forward and then back before finally getting enough traction to move a couple of feet. Digging myself out again, repositioning the carpet, etc.

Once free, I drove across town to find the eye doctor closed. Big surprise there.

It turned out no one could get into our clinic. Since it’s attached to a school and the schools had a snow day, we had no one to unlock the door.

Rather than returning to the Main clinic for the second half of the day, I went to Daniel’s and took a nap (and then made supper, did laundry, helped Daniel with some data entry for a project, organized cleaning supplies, and cleaned the toilet.)

Over the afternoon, we got a third snowfall–another three or four inches maybe. Daniel cleared my car before I went home–and thankfully, we haven’t gotten anymore.

Nevertheless, it is cold and wet today. We actually have accumulation. The streets are piled with snow that is only just beginning to be packed down by slowly emerging drivers.

And, a curious young client looked carefully at my pantyhose this morning before proclaiming, “You can’t wear THAT! It’s SNOWY outside.”


Life These Days

I love my life.

I am doing what I love-helping women feed their families better, doing nutrition education. I work for a program I believe in, with people I enjoy. I work just 40 hours a week.

I am in the same city as the man I love. I get to see him every day. I cook (almost) every day for a man who compliments my food and gladly eats the leftovers.

I am in the process of making a home in a lovely little house, with hardwood floor like I’ve always dreamed about and an abundance of windows. Daniel and I have complete freedom to paint the walls, build things, and tear things down. It is our home.

I am surrounded by great people. I have Happy Food every Tuesday, where I eat good food and enjoy the company of a fascinating group of men and women. Every other weekend or so, I share meals with friends of Daniel’s who are becoming my friends too–couples, singles, older people and younger. I have a mentor that I meet with to discuss life, to pray with and be encouraged by.

I am preparing for my wedding. In less than a month, I will marry a man beyond my dreams–whose mother refers to us as a “matched set” (isn’t that the sweetest–and possibly scariest–thing you’ve ever heard?) I am deliriously happy.

Life is wonderful.

And it is SO HARD.

I left Daniel’s house last night and started crying.

Sobbing.

Bawling.

I almost had to pull over because I could hardly see.

The girl working at the McDonald’s drive-through looked at me with pity, no doubt wondering about my red eyes, running nose, and the tears dripping off my chin.

Once I was home, I had to sit in the car for several minutes, trying to calm myself enough to not wake the people I live with with my sobs.

It is hard.

So many changes, so many disruptions to my usual routines. So much work to do, so little progress seeming to be made. So much on my mind, so much in my heart, so much.

It’s overwhelming, it’s…

It’s hard.

If you get a chance, pray for me.

Pray that I would sleep. Pray that I would remember to eat. Pray that I wouldn’t stress about all that has to be done. Pray that I would have discernment to know what doesn’t have to be done.

And pray for Daniel, who has to put up with this crazy-emotional-woman turning his life and routines and home upside down.


I am NOT a Hipster

She stopped me in church to compliment me on my outfits, my hats.

“You don’t see people dress like that around here,” she said. “My daughter lives in Portland–and they do a lot of stuff like that there.”

I smiled and thanked her while inwardly exclaiming: “A hipster! She thinks I’m a HIPSTER!”

Allow me to explain my perception of the hipster ethos in video form:

The ironic and rather pretentious hipster attitude really turns me off.

Yet, when I described this woman’s intended compliment to Daniel, he said that I do exhibit some aspects of the hipster.

After all, I wear hats to church. I buy most everything used. I adore vintage clothes. I adore vintage fabrics. I’m all about DIY.

But I’m NOT a hipster, I proclaimed.

Nevertheless, I was unable to explain why I was not a hipster.

Until I read this Op-Ed (HT: Vitamin Z) in the New York Times:

“If irony is the ethos of our age — and it is — then the hipster is our archetype of ironic living…

The ironic frame functions as a shield against criticism. The same goes for ironic living. Irony is the most self-defensive mode, as it allows a person to dodge responsibility for his or her choices, aesthetic and otherwise. To live ironically is to hide in public.”

Really, author Christy Wampole explains, the hipster ethos is all about protecting oneself from mockery by living a life of self-mockery.

And here is where I differ from the hipster.

While I love vintage and hats and old clothing and bicycles and making my own compost (okay, the last is not always the most successful venture), I don’t do so out of any sense of irony.

I simply enjoy those things.

Hence, a recent Facebook wall post:

“I am of the ‘don’t-call-my-Christmas-sweater-ugly’ persuasion. (Also, please show proper respect for my Christmas nighties, socks, turtlenecks, and pajamas.) Yes, I am one of those who enjoys Christmas kitsch without the protection of irony.”

I’m not trying to be either cool or counterculturally uncool. I just like things. I think they’re fun. And they happen to be some of the same things hipsters are “ruining for the rest of us”.

In short, I am NOT a hipster.

(Feel free to add your Yeah, sure‘s here :-) )


Choosing names

Getting married in the modern era is a process fraught with decisions. When will the wedding be? Where will the wedding be? Who will we invite? What will we register for? What colors should our attendants wear?

These are all among the all-important wedding questions. But there are other, equally important non-wedding questions to answer.

Questions like: What name shall we use? Will she take his name, he take hers, or will they hyphenate? Or perhaps they will keep their same names, either for all uses or only on a professional basis. If they keep their own names, will their children have his name, hers, or a hyphenated name?

Daniel and I also have to deal with the naming questions.

You see, Daniel’s last name is a very common Hispanic name (in the top ten last names in the US as of the 2000 census.)

Which means we (er, I) have learned a bit about prejudices.

I’ve seen it on their faces when I let Daniel’s last name slip. I see the mental adjustment of expectations. They’d been imagining Daniel white, like me – but now they have to think differently (or they choose to think differently.)

It’s not all prejudice, though. Some people make assumptions in an attempt to be kind – like when the school calls Daniel’s brother about his son and leaves the message in Spanish.

Others think Daniel’s last name (and its incongruity with his appearance) is hilarious. Like our car dealer friend, who insisted that, with a last name like ours (yes, I’ll be taking Daniel’s name), we should name our car something “Mexican”.

Of course, my family (at least one of whom had already taken to calling us his “Mexican sister and brother-in-law”) took to this suggestion. They were eager to offer naming advice and ideas, throwing out “Juan” and “Jose” and “Eduardo” and “Ricardo”.

I sat on the suggestion for a week, ruminating over the various options. Every so often, Daniel asked me if I’d named the car yet. Day after day, my answer was no.

I looked up Hispanic names online, tried some on our Sentra for size.

At last, I’d narrowed the options to two. I asked Daniel what he thought of Alejandro or Javier.

When Daniel responded, it was clear what must be done.

Alejandro he is.

Our first naming decision has been made, with relatively little stress. Next time, though, I’m gonna guess I’ll not be quite so open to suggestions (I will NOT be naming a son Juan or Eduardo. Just sayin’.)


Where you go…

You know that verse people always pull out around wedding-times?

“Where you go I will go, and where you lodge I will lodge. Your people shall be my people, and your God my God.”
~Ruth 1:16

Obviously a romantic and wedding appropriate Scripture, right?

But the context of this verse isn’t a wedding at all.

Actually, it’s a funeral.

Ruth’s husband has died, as has her husband’s brother and father. Now only she, her sister-in-law, and her mother-in-law remain, destitute widows in Moab.

Naomi, Ruth’s mother-in-law, urges Ruth and Orpah to return to their fathers’ houses, to remarry and to be happy.

Ruth protests, saying that she would rather be a foreigner in a foreign land, would rather work to support her helpless mother-in-law, would rather adopt a foreign God than leave her beloved mother-in-law.

A far cry from modern mother-in-law stories.

So many women are at odds with their mothers-in-law. Or if they aren’t at odds, they don’t protest at the profusion of mother-in-law jokes.

This saddens me.

That’s not what I want my relationship with my mother-in-law to look like. I don’t want to roll my eyes at her and forever be competing with her (whether actually or just in our minds) for my husband’s affection.

While I certainly don’t want to be in Ruth’s situation, I would love to have the kind of relationship with my mother-in-law that I would respond as Ruth did.

Of course, I have on good authority that my soon-to-be mother-in-law is a wonderful woman and a fantastic mother-in-law.

When Daniel and I were visiting his brother and sister-in-law before my trip to Philadelphia, Katie shooed her husband from the room so she could give me the down-low on the family. (She must have seen the writing on the wall–we got engaged, much to our surprise, only days later.)

Katie had only good things to say about her mother-in-law, a woman who I had not yet met.

Now, having met Paula, I can say with certitude that I am inclined to like her and am very much looking forward to having her as a mother-in-law.

Of course, this week I have extra incentive to repeat Ruth’s words:

Where you go I will go
since she’s going to Wichita

and where you lodge I will lodge
actually, I’ll be staying elsewhere, but we’ll both be spending a good amount of time at the home of her son, my betrothed

Your people shall be my people,
That is, her son shall be my husband (!)

and your God my God.
I am so thrilled that my future mother-in-law is a woman of God who will pray for Daniel and I and encourage us in the Lord.

This weekend, I have the delightful opportunity to travel with my future father- and mother-in-law to Wichita (9 hours roundtrip) to see Daniel.

While I won’t lie and say that I have no apprehensions, I am overwhelmingly excited for this chance to get to know my in-laws better (and maybe to learn a little more about the man I love.)

Where you go, indeed.


An unintended Blogging break

This last stint has probably been the longest I’ve gone without blogging since I began posting regularly some 4 or so years ago. It has now officially been 14 days.

I’ve considered blogging breaks before, but never too seriously-and I didn’t end up planning this one at all.

I’ve just been busy.

In no particular order, here’s what I’ve been doing with my time.

Working

I’ve mentioned a bit about work, but haven’t mentioned (that I remember) that I’ve been acting as interim Director of Dining Services at my facility in Columbus while my dietary manager has been gone on leave. This has been in addition to my other duties which have been extensive due to my other dietary managers needing to take leave as well. My manager in Columbus will not be returning and I am pleased to announce that, as of next Monday, I will no longer be traveling. I will be giving up my two long-distance buildings and will be the RD/Director of Dining Services for Columbus.

Teaching
Teaching Sunday School continues to be a delight. It is much easier this year since I have a great curriculum and helpers-but it continues to take time.

Learning
My national professional conference just finished up today in Philly-and I’ve been here soaking up classroom time. I’ve also been tweeting from the conference, which has involved learning how to use the touchscreen of a borrowed tablet.

Sightseeing
I did take the afternoon after the conference to see the most important Philly sights (that is, but the historical ones). The loaned tablet came in handy for snapping pictures of myself with the Liberty Bell and at Independence Hall.

With Daniel
Before I flew out, Daniel and I got to spend some time together. We spent some time in the city-but also some time just hanging out at his brother and sister-in-law’s house (where I was staying). Daniel’s adorable niece (almost 4 years old) took some pictures of us-which means I can let you see him (albeit a facial-hair-less version of him, which is unlikely to last long).


Farmers and Favorites

Sunday School teachers, like every other sort of teacher, are not supposed to have favorites.

They are supposed to love all their students equally.

And I do, I think, love them all equally–but there are some students that I enjoy more than others.

One in particular, may well be my favorite.

I call him my eight-going-on-eighty farmer.

There is never a lack for conversational topics with this kid, since all I have to do is ask him about what’s going on around the farm. He’ll be pleased to tell me about ‘nhydrous or bean or corn farming.

At the beginning of this fall session of Sunday School, while the students were filing in to class the first day, I asked the students what their favorite part of the summer was.

Most of the students responded with stories of celebrations or vacations. This student answered matter-of-factly: “Irrigatin'” Then he described the satisfying feeling of cracking open a pod of soybeans and squishing out the beans.

When prayer time rolled around last week, most of the students had typical children’s requests: Owies and family members who are sick and the like. This student wanted prayers for the harvest–and then for rain.

Yes, Sunday School teachers aren’t supposed to have favorites–but sometimes I forget in the sheer joy of teaching this particular student.


Snapshot: A Reluctant Fan

Those who know me know…that I am not exactly interested in sports.

It’s not that I have anything against them, per se–just that they fail to interest me.

But love compels me, and I have found myself at more games in the past month than (probably) I have attended in my entire life before.

Football

I love these people who God has set me into the midst of–and they love sports.

Football

So I take pleasure in cheering on Erik’s midget football team, Beth’s volleyball team, and Collin (#80) and Zach (#34) and the Columbus Middle School Sailors (No, they’re not actually the “Sailors”, but I’m going to go with Grandpa’s team name!)

Football

Loving them this way is definitely not natural–but it is certainly worth it.

“And this commandment we have from him: whoever loves God must also love his brother.”
~I John 4:21


Snapshot: Labor Day

Every new iteration of the Little Miss just gets cuter and cuter.

This Labor Day weekend, we enjoyed a weenie roast around my dad’s firepit.

The Little Miss had her little chair.

Little Miss with Potato Chips

And someone placed the bag of potato chips next to her.

She was pleased to enjoy them until some one or the other of us (What me? Never!) stole them from her to have some ourselves.

Little Miss

We’re pretty proud to have her.

Thanks, Debbie, for laboring to bring this little one into the family!